Anonymity and trust

Anonymity and trust

In high school I was the classic overachiever, excelling in school and sports while also caring for my siblings when my mom was suffering from a disabling depression. A neighbor in recovery suggested that I try out Al-Anon, so I went, but only a few times. I was sure Al-Anon wasn’t for me. Since neither…

I still need a program

I still need a program

A former husband was my “qualifier” for 12 Step recovery.  When he first attempted sobriety, I was very excited to attend Alcoholics Anonymous meetings with him, but soon learned that there was a program for friends and families of alcoholics.   “The dynamics of alcohol addiction were all over my childhood…. I absorbed fears and…

My atheist Higher Power

My atheist Higher Power

When I arrived at my first Al-Anon meeting, desperate and upset about a family member, I heard things that gave me hope. But the Twelve Steps’ talk of “God” made me very uncomfortable. A lifelong atheist, I had no desire to “get religion.” Moreover, I disapproved of those who thought differently. Now I seemed to…